As mentioned above, I am trained in cognitive behavioral therapy, but I also use methods of acceptance and commitment therapy, emotion-focused methods, systemic therapy, DBT, schema therapy, and many other methods (IPT, pCBT, SRT, PMR, etc.).
We specifically address your concern by identifying it, defining it, and developing a solution. To do this, we must first understand the problem and its circumstances. Only then can it be properly identified and worked on in the various situations in which it arises. In my professional experience, I have found that the intermediate step of recognizing and then accepting is an important step in making things easier to change. Most of the time there is a pain that we need to learn to deal with. If we want to get rid of this pain as quickly as possible, we usually suffer from it even more. This creates what is called "symptom stress" (Ellis) "It is terrible to suffer from depression." This can stand in the way of healing, which is why I have found it helpful to use methods from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
This can eventually lead to profound and lasting change. If the problem is more profound, the methods of Schema Therapy can be used to re-parent the so-called inner child modes and to change the inner parent modes from critical, driving to caring.