Lucy H
Psychologist
Maybe you're tired of holding it all together. But you don't have to perform here. We'll figure it out together, at your own pace. Come as you are.
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About me
People usually come to me around a few overlapping struggles:
Feeling not good enough, no matter what you've achieved, and a harsh inner voice that doesn't let up.
Not knowing where your boundaries are, or knowing them and still feeling guilty holding them.
Patterns that started in childhood and keep showing up in your relationships, your self-talk, or how you respond to conflict, without you fully knowing why.
Burnout from constantly performing, overgiving, or holding everything together, until you can't anymore.
Feeling overwhelmed by your emotions, or the opposite: shutting down, going numb, or struggling to even name what you're feeling in the moment.
Difficulty navigating identity and belonging, whether that's cultural, biracial, third-culture, neurodivergent, or LGBTQ+ identity, especially when you've never quite felt like you belonged fully in one space.
Communication and relationship struggles, including assertiveness, conflict, and figuring out what you actually want to say versus what you've learned to say to keep the peace.
Living with a chronic illness, and the toll it can take on your energy, identity, and relationships.
If any of that sounds familiar, you're in the right place. You don't need to have it figured out before we start. I'm here to help you slow down, understand your own patterns, and build a relationship with yourself and others that feels more honest and less exhausting.
Much of this work is personal to me too. I was raised in a biracial, Asian-European household, where two very different sets of rules, values, and ways of expressing emotion often clashed, and I grew up translating between them, what counted as respect in one culture could look like silence or suppression in the other, what counted as healthy independence in one could look like selfishness in the other. Years at international schools, surrounded by people also working out where they belonged, added to that. I also understand both conservative and progressive ways of seeing the world, which helps me connect with clients across very different backgrounds without anyone needing to over-explain themselves.
My approach is collaborative and non-judgmental. You won't be handed a fixed program to follow, we'll figure out together what you actually need from session to session.
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Location:
Media Gallery
Approach
You're not a checklist, so I won't treat you like one. In practice, that means our work together can shift from week to week: some sessions more reflective and exploratory, others more structured with concrete tools, depending on what you bring in and what's actually useful that day. If something isn't working, we change it.
I work integratively, drawing on ideas and techniques from several approaches rather than locking into one, including:
A person-centred foundation: I guide and stay actively engaged, but you're in control of the pace and direction.
Psychodynamic ideas, for understanding where current patterns and reactions came from, often in childhood or early relationships.
Compassion Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, for working with self-criticism, the internal conflict between different "parts" of yourself, and making room for difficult emotions without letting them run the show.
Mindfulness-based techniques, for noticing patterns as they happen, not just after the fact.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) tools, for reframing unhelpful thoughts and practical, concrete steps when structure is useful.
I take a sensitive, paced approach to difficult or trauma-related material, meaning we move at a speed that keeps you feeling safe and in control of how much you share and when, rather than pushing for disclosure before you're ready.
Sessions are held online, so you can join from wherever you are, including while travelling. I offer flexible scheduling, including evenings and weekends, and a free 30-minute introductory call before your first paid session. In that call, we talk through what's bringing you here, what you're looking for, and how I work, so we can both get a sense of whether it's a good fit.
Experience
Private Practice, Owner & Psychologist (current)
Internship at SHG Therapy Amsterdam (past)
Education
MSc in Psychology (Clinical Psychology track), Erasmus University Rotterdam
BA, Liberal Arts and Sciences (Psychology), Erasmus University College
Member of the Nederlands Instituut van Psychologen (NIP)
Services
Intro Call
Individual Session
Insurances
