Tamara Ruhberg

**When closeness triggers stress, healing begins in the nervous system.** Many of my clients are wonderful, successful, self-reflective humans who have achieved a lot in various areas and are highly educated – yet in relationships, they often feel overwhelmed, insecure, alone, or stuck in a constant mode of “trying to do everything right.” Especially in dating or early stages of partnership, they experience stress: They long for closeness, but repeatedly fall into patterns like people-pleasing, emotional over-adaptation, or the feeling of having no space, of losing themselves. This is exactly where my work comes in: I support you in understanding the roots of these patterns – and most importantly, in sustainably changing them by softly integrating the triggers. In my work, I combine approaches from body-oriented trauma therapy, nervous system regulation, parts work (Internal Family Systems), and psychologically grounded coaching. Because relationship patterns are not just a matter of the mind – they are shaped by old survival strategies that often run completely unconsciously. I help you return to a state where real connection feels safe – without losing yourself in the process. **My Background** I’m a certified "Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner", "NARM® (Neuro Affective Relational Model) Complex Trauma Informed Professional", and currently training as a "Heilpraktikerin for Psychotherapy" (German licensed psychotherapy alternative practitioner). For more than ten years, I have been supporting people in the fields of "mental health and stress regulation" – including as a "corporate health manager, trainer for healthy leadership, and in individual coaching and therapy". **My core passion:** Supporting people who keep getting entangled in the loop of "self-abandonment, overwhelm, and withdrawal in relationships" (partners, family, work, friendships). People who long for real closeness but often shift into fight, flight, or freeze mode as soon as things get “serious” or “too close.” It’s about building "inner safety" – so you can truly let others in while staying connected to yourself. I work "body-centered, mindful, and without pressure" – so that connection stops being exhausting and starts being nourishing. --- If you want to learn how to stay connected to yourself in relationships, recognize old patterns, and finally experience deep connection, you’re in the right place. Looking forward to meeting you. --- **Focus Areas:** * Relationship issues, attachment anxiety, fear of loss * Dating overwhelm and frustration * People pleasing & the feeling of being “too much,” “too sensitive,” or “constantly misunderstood” * Repetitive patterns with emotionally unavailable or overly "clingy" partners * Exhaustion from constant overthinking, doubts and worries * Difficulty sensing and setting boundaries * Shame, self-doubt, and insecurity * Longing for inner peace, relaxation, and calm even when everything “seems fine” on the outside High stress load, sleep difficulties (falling asleep, staying asleep, waking unrefreshed) * Burnout prevention * Loneliness & the feeling of not really belonging anywhere * High pressure at work combined with little real social support * Procrastination * Feeling stuck, like you’re not living up to your potential * Frequent conflicts with managers, landlords, roommates * Mood issues, persistent "being down" feelings * High sensitivity, emotional intensity * Inner child work, parts work * Trauma-sensitive integration work