Dr. Frederik Unseld
Coach
Verified by It's Complicated
Available for new clients
“Before I fall in love, I plan the breakup.”
(avoidant)
“If you leave me, can I come with you?”
(anxious)
A place where these patterns can begin to shift.
(avoidant)
“If you leave me, can I come with you?”
(anxious)
A place where these patterns can begin to shift.
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At a glance
Last active
Experienced on It's Complicated640+ sessions on It's Complicated
Offers free 60 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Your story is important.Feel free to contact me here if you feel that we could be a good fit.
Usually responds within 12 hours
About me
Hello! If you keep finding yourself in the same relationship dynamics, even though you’ve already reflected a lot, you’re in the right place.
I specialize in helping you identify and shift attachment patterns that quietly shape how you relate, often without you fully noticing.
This work is for people who sense that something needs to change, but aren’t yet sure how.
Many people arrive here after learning about attachment styles such as anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or fearful avoidant patterns, and beginning to recognize them in their own relationships.
I support you in working with insecure attachment patterns, with the aim of creating more meaningful and fulfilling connections with yourself and with others. Many people come into this work hoping for clarity or relief, and then discover that something deeper begins to move, often in ways they had not fully anticipated.
I specialize in helping you identify and shift attachment patterns that quietly shape how you relate, often without you fully noticing.
This work is for people who sense that something needs to change, but aren’t yet sure how.
Many people arrive here after learning about attachment styles such as anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or fearful avoidant patterns, and beginning to recognize them in their own relationships.
I support you in working with insecure attachment patterns, with the aim of creating more meaningful and fulfilling connections with yourself and with others. Many people come into this work hoping for clarity or relief, and then discover that something deeper begins to move, often in ways they had not fully anticipated.
I speak:
GermanEnglish
Location:
Berlin, Germany
Approach
Treatment Approaches
ACT: Acceptance and Commitment TherapyRecommended for those who want to stop fighting negative thoughts and learn how to live with more acceptance and focus on what really matters in life.
HypnotherapyRecommended for those who want to use relaxation and hypnosis techniques to explore deeper parts of their mind or break unhealthy habits.
Systemic coachingRecommended for those who want to improve their personal or professional relationships by understanding how they function within larger systems.
What is Attachment Repair and how can it change your life?
Attachment Repair is a powerful approach to working with emotional patterns that have been affecting your relationships, often for a long time. Together, we explore how these patterns developed, whether through early experiences, difficult relationships, loss, or periods of emotional insecurity.
This can include anxious attachment, avoidant strategies such as emotional shutdown or distance, or the push–pull dynamics often described as fearful avoidant or disorganized attachment.
The aim is not to pathologize the past, but to understand what once made sense and how these strategies may now be limiting your experience of closeness and intimacy. Ultimately, though, our goal is not to change how you think about relationships, but how you actually experience them.
Rather than explaining emotional blockages away, I work with new emotional experiences in the present. Over time, this changes how you move through moments of conflict or closeness. Your nervous system responds differently, and choices become available that you could not arrive at through thinking alone. The shifts are often subtle, but they tend to last.
How do we work together?
Our sessions combine reflective conversation with guided inner work. The inner work invites a light trance state in which deeper emotional layers can become accessible in a contained and supportive way. Here, we always move at your pace, and together we find a rhythm that feels comfortable and unfolds step by step.
After each session, you receive an audio recording of the guided part. This recording is a central element of the work. When you listen to it regularly, ideally on a daily basis, the experience can continue to deepen and integrate into your everyday life.
Over time, many people notice very concrete shifts. Self-doubt becomes less dominant. Inner steadiness grows. Fear of abandonment softens. Patterns of self-erasure and people pleasing quietly give way to a more authentic and grounded way of being in contact.
All sessions take place online. You can join from anywhere in the world, in your own space, without the need to travel. You might be surprised how consistently and how deeply we can work together in online sessions.
Free 60-minute video call
If you’d like to get a sense of whether this work is right for you, we can begin with a free 60-minute video call.
This call is a chance for us to meet as people. You can tell me what brings you here, I’ll listen carefully, and I’ll share some initial thoughts and impressions. I also explain how I work, including the inner journeys, and sketch a possible path forward from an attachment-oriented perspective.
Just as importantly, it gives you a chance to get a feel for me and for how I work. There is no obligation and no pressure, for you or for me. What matters is whether it feels like a good fit.
If you’re interested, simply send me a message with your availability, and I’ll propose a time that works for you.
You can also visit my website, Freddy’s Couch, to learn more and watch a short video where I introduce myself and my work:
https://www.freddys-couch.com
(in German)
Attachment Repair is a powerful approach to working with emotional patterns that have been affecting your relationships, often for a long time. Together, we explore how these patterns developed, whether through early experiences, difficult relationships, loss, or periods of emotional insecurity.
This can include anxious attachment, avoidant strategies such as emotional shutdown or distance, or the push–pull dynamics often described as fearful avoidant or disorganized attachment.
The aim is not to pathologize the past, but to understand what once made sense and how these strategies may now be limiting your experience of closeness and intimacy. Ultimately, though, our goal is not to change how you think about relationships, but how you actually experience them.
Rather than explaining emotional blockages away, I work with new emotional experiences in the present. Over time, this changes how you move through moments of conflict or closeness. Your nervous system responds differently, and choices become available that you could not arrive at through thinking alone. The shifts are often subtle, but they tend to last.
How do we work together?
Our sessions combine reflective conversation with guided inner work. The inner work invites a light trance state in which deeper emotional layers can become accessible in a contained and supportive way. Here, we always move at your pace, and together we find a rhythm that feels comfortable and unfolds step by step.
After each session, you receive an audio recording of the guided part. This recording is a central element of the work. When you listen to it regularly, ideally on a daily basis, the experience can continue to deepen and integrate into your everyday life.
Over time, many people notice very concrete shifts. Self-doubt becomes less dominant. Inner steadiness grows. Fear of abandonment softens. Patterns of self-erasure and people pleasing quietly give way to a more authentic and grounded way of being in contact.
All sessions take place online. You can join from anywhere in the world, in your own space, without the need to travel. You might be surprised how consistently and how deeply we can work together in online sessions.
Free 60-minute video call
If you’d like to get a sense of whether this work is right for you, we can begin with a free 60-minute video call.
This call is a chance for us to meet as people. You can tell me what brings you here, I’ll listen carefully, and I’ll share some initial thoughts and impressions. I also explain how I work, including the inner journeys, and sketch a possible path forward from an attachment-oriented perspective.
Just as importantly, it gives you a chance to get a feel for me and for how I work. There is no obligation and no pressure, for you or for me. What matters is whether it feels like a good fit.
If you’re interested, simply send me a message with your availability, and I’ll propose a time that works for you.
You can also visit my website, Freddy’s Couch, to learn more and watch a short video where I introduce myself and my work:
https://www.freddys-couch.com
(in German)
Experience
640+ sessions on It's Complicated
Attachment-oriented work is something I care about deeply. Over the years, I’ve worked with people from diverse cultural backgrounds, sexual orientations, relationship forms, biographies, and trauma responses. Each journey has been different, and each has shaped how I work today.
Education
2024 - 2026: training in integrative and contemplative psychology with Dr. John Churchill (student of Dr. Daniel Brown)
Since 2021 - 2024: training in hypnotic interventions for attachment disorders in adults (developed by Dr. Daniel Brown, Harvard Medical School)
2024: NLP Master-Trainer, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2023: NLP Master, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2022: NLP Practitioner, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2021: Hypno-Systemic Coach, certified by the German Professional Association for Coaching (DFC)
2020: PhD in Social Anthropology, University of Basel, Switzerland
Since 2021 - 2024: training in hypnotic interventions for attachment disorders in adults (developed by Dr. Daniel Brown, Harvard Medical School)
2024: NLP Master-Trainer, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2023: NLP Master, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2022: NLP Practitioner, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2021: Hypno-Systemic Coach, certified by the German Professional Association for Coaching (DFC)
2020: PhD in Social Anthropology, University of Basel, Switzerland
Services
Intro Call
Free • 1 hr • Online
Individual Session
€85 • 1 hr • Online
Insurances
Private Pay
At a glance
Last active
Experienced on It's Complicated640+ sessions on It's Complicated
Offers free 60 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Your story is important.Feel free to contact me here if you feel that we could be a good fit.
Usually responds within 12 hours
Usually responds within 12 hours