Dr. Frederik Unseld
Coach
Verified by It's Complicated
Available for new clients
You keep ending up in the same dynamics — even though you want something different.
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At a glance
Last active
Experienced on It's Complicated690+ sessions on It's Complicated
Offers free 60 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Your story is important.Feel free to contact me here if you feel that we could be a good fit.
Usually responds within 12 hours
About me
Hello, and welcome.
If you find yourself in the same relationship dynamics, or struggling with connection and intimacy, you’re in the right place.
Something in you already senses that things could be different.
I can support you in seeing more clearly how you actually relate, and in creating more meaningful and fulfilling connections, both with yourself and with others.
You might feel that something needs to change, but you’re not yet sure how.
Or perhaps you’ve already tried different approaches and are still looking for something that really shifts things.
If you find yourself in the same relationship dynamics, or struggling with connection and intimacy, you’re in the right place.
Something in you already senses that things could be different.
I can support you in seeing more clearly how you actually relate, and in creating more meaningful and fulfilling connections, both with yourself and with others.
You might feel that something needs to change, but you’re not yet sure how.
Or perhaps you’ve already tried different approaches and are still looking for something that really shifts things.
I speak:
GermanEnglish
Location:
Berlin, Germany
Approach
Treatment Approaches
ACT: Acceptance and Commitment TherapyRecommended for those who want to stop fighting negative thoughts and learn how to live with more acceptance and focus on what really matters in life.
HypnotherapyRecommended for those who want to use relaxation and hypnosis techniques to explore deeper parts of their mind or break unhealthy habits.
Systemic coachingRecommended for those who want to improve their personal or professional relationships by understanding how they function within larger systems.
My approaches focuses on patterns that shape how you relate, often quietly and outside of your awareness.
Together, we explore how these patterns developed over time, and how they once made sense.
This may include experiences from childhood, difficult relationships, or periods of emotional insecurity.
It can show up as anxious attachment, avoidant strategies such as emotional shutdown or distance, or the push–pull dynamics often described as fearful avoidant (sometimes also called disorganized attachment).
This work is often more experiential than people expect.
Many people notice meaningful shifts once we begin working directly with inner experience.
Rather than explaining patterns away, we work with new ways of experiencing situations in the present.
Over time, this changes how you move through moments of closeness, distance, or conflict.
Your system begins to respond differently, and new choices become available.
How do we work together?
My sessions combine reflective conversation with guided inner work.
The inner work gently shifts your attention inward, allowing deeper emotional layers to become accessible in a contained and supportive way.
We move at your pace, and together find a rhythm that feels right.
After each session, you receive an audio recording of the guided part. Listening to this regularly helps deepen and integrate the experience into your daily life.
Over time, you may notice concrete shifts.
Self-doubt becomes less dominant.
A quieter, more stable inner center begins to emerge.
Fear of abandonment can soften.
Patterns like people-pleasing or self-erasure become less compelling, making space for a more grounded and authentic way of relating.
All sessions take place online.
You can join from anywhere, in your own space.
Free 60-minute conversation
If you’d like to explore whether this way of working is right for you, we can begin with a free 60-minute conversation.
If you’re interested, simply send me a message with your availability, and I’ll suggest a time.
Together, we explore how these patterns developed over time, and how they once made sense.
This may include experiences from childhood, difficult relationships, or periods of emotional insecurity.
It can show up as anxious attachment, avoidant strategies such as emotional shutdown or distance, or the push–pull dynamics often described as fearful avoidant (sometimes also called disorganized attachment).
This work is often more experiential than people expect.
Many people notice meaningful shifts once we begin working directly with inner experience.
Rather than explaining patterns away, we work with new ways of experiencing situations in the present.
Over time, this changes how you move through moments of closeness, distance, or conflict.
Your system begins to respond differently, and new choices become available.
How do we work together?
My sessions combine reflective conversation with guided inner work.
The inner work gently shifts your attention inward, allowing deeper emotional layers to become accessible in a contained and supportive way.
We move at your pace, and together find a rhythm that feels right.
After each session, you receive an audio recording of the guided part. Listening to this regularly helps deepen and integrate the experience into your daily life.
Over time, you may notice concrete shifts.
Self-doubt becomes less dominant.
A quieter, more stable inner center begins to emerge.
Fear of abandonment can soften.
Patterns like people-pleasing or self-erasure become less compelling, making space for a more grounded and authentic way of relating.
All sessions take place online.
You can join from anywhere, in your own space.
Free 60-minute conversation
If you’d like to explore whether this way of working is right for you, we can begin with a free 60-minute conversation.
If you’re interested, simply send me a message with your availability, and I’ll suggest a time.
Experience
690+ sessions on It's Complicated
Attachment-oriented work is something I care about deeply. Over the years, I’ve worked with people from diverse cultural backgrounds, sexual orientations, relationship forms, biographies, and trauma responses. Each journey has been different, and each has shaped how I work today.
Education
I draw on several years of training in attachment-focused and experiential approaches, including:
2026: The Mettagroup Method™ Certification Program | Certified Trauma Informed Coach, with George Haas
2024 - 2026: Training in integrative and contemplative psychology with John Churchill (student of Dr. Daniel Brown)
2021 - 2024: Training in repair for attachment disorders in adults (developed by Dr. Daniel Brown, Harvard Medical School)
2024: NLP Master-Trainer, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2023: NLP Master, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2022: NLP Practitioner, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2021: Hypno-Systemic Coach, certified by the German Professional Association for Coaching (DFC)
2020: PhD in Social Anthropology, University of Basel, Switzerland
2026: The Mettagroup Method™ Certification Program | Certified Trauma Informed Coach, with George Haas
2024 - 2026: Training in integrative and contemplative psychology with John Churchill (student of Dr. Daniel Brown)
2021 - 2024: Training in repair for attachment disorders in adults (developed by Dr. Daniel Brown, Harvard Medical School)
2024: NLP Master-Trainer, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2023: NLP Master, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2022: NLP Practitioner, certified by the German Society for Neurolinguistic Programming (DVNLP)
2021: Hypno-Systemic Coach, certified by the German Professional Association for Coaching (DFC)
2020: PhD in Social Anthropology, University of Basel, Switzerland
Services
Intro Call
Free • 1 hr • Online
Individual Session
€85 • 1 hr • Online
Insurances
Private Pay
At a glance
Last active
Experienced on It's Complicated690+ sessions on It's Complicated
Offers free 60 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Your story is important.Feel free to contact me here if you feel that we could be a good fit.
Usually responds within 12 hours
Usually responds within 12 hours