My journey into psychotherapy - and eventually into Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples - has been shaped by both beautiful and challenging experiences. My own path to a healthy, loving, and fulfilling relationship was difficult and marked by many defeats - the most painful of which was probably the separation from the mother of my daughter.
During my training in behavioral therapy at the IVB in Berlin, I learned a lot, but I felt something was missing: the work with our emotions - our deepest drive. It was only through my partner that I became aware of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. We were incredibly amazed at how much the concepts applied to us, so we decided on the spot to both enroll in a training. That was in the summer of 2022. This training not only a new professional outlook but also led us to a fresh start in our relationship, for which we are both incredibly grateful.
But working with couples following the EFT concept, dealing with deep emotions, early relationship and attachment experiences, brings me so much joy that it now stands on equal footing with my work with individual clients.
Additionally, since 2023, I have also been working with couples, individual clients, and groups with psilocybin-based experiences in the Netherlands.
Thinking or acting differently may not change the way we feel - but feeling differently will change the way we think and act!
Emotions are the core of our identity, an expression of our humanity and important messages and warnings from our unconscious. Yet, they often appear incomprehensible, painful, and, in our rational society, unnecessary or even obstructive.
Our innermost emotions are direct consequences of our history, our traumas and experiences - yet they so often are too painful, difficult or confusing for us and our partners.
Often our loved ones trigger these deep, painful and overwhelming emotions, and once that happens we can't deal with them alone. We go into a state of survival, fighting or avoiding those we only want to be close with. Many times, these events quickly spiral into a vicious cycle, causing pain, suffering and deep emotional wounds to those we love most.
To get out of this struggle, understanding is not enough. We need someone to go with us into the thick of it, to help us understand ourselves and our partner, to create deep emotional change where we can't change by ourselves.
Together we will create new emotional experiences that lead the way towards hope and healing for yourself and your relationship. I will be with you every step of the way!
APPOINTMENTS
You can book an initial consultation (online, 39€) directly on this platform - so you can get to know me and my therapeutic approach (or here: https://scheduler.zoom.us/psychedelic-therapies/initial-consultation-couples-25-min)
If we decide to work together, there will be some questionnaires that I'll ask you to fill in before our first session to help me make the session worthwhile for you and give me a basic understanding of the two of you and your relationship.
After the first couples session, there will be two individual sessions, followed by couples sessions and individual sessions as needed. Usually, around 6-12 couples sessions are sufficient.