It's Complicated

Valentina Calandra

(They/She)

Couples Therapist & Clinical Psychologist

Verified by It's Complicated
Available for new clients
My practice is eclectic, socio-politically engaged, and based on liberatory psychology and feminist theory. GDSR (gender, sexual, relationship diverse). Couples & Individuals. Warm and human-centered. Queer.

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At a glance
Berlin, GermanyAvailable in-person, online and via text
Last active
Experienced on It's ComplicatedAlmost 7 years and 1330+ sessions on It's Complicated
Offers free 30 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Your story is important.Feel free to contact me here if you feel that we could be a good fit.
Illustration of a smiling sun peeking over a cloud, symbolizing warmth and positivity for connecting with the therapist.
Usually responds within 24 hours

About me

I grew up moving around a lot with my family, so I empathize greatly with the strife of being away from home and trying to integrate into an unfamiliar culture. I was born in Italy, and raised first in Turkey and then in The Netherlands. I went to university in the U.S. I know how it feels to lack a sense of "home", and to seek out belonging in every phase of life. Helping others has always felt like my calling. Professionally, I have practiced in a private clinic setting and worked with diverse clients. I have experience with group therapy and have helped clients with addiction, mood disorders, personality disorders, trauma, and relationship issues (I am not too keen on placing people in categories based on diagnoses, but just so you have an idea of what kinds of experiences I have helped people through :)). The most relevant tools, perspectives and lenses I use in my work now, I have learned either in practice with clients, or by studying activism, queer theory, feminism, anti-racism, and transformational justice. These have become the backbone of my practice - which is at its heart, a place for resistance and empowerment. I believe in bringing my full self to the therapy room, while checking my privilege, and the various identities I bring to the table, to show up authentically, in an honest, powerful connection with clients. I value warmth, softness, and silliness. Let's abandon notions of "normality" and use knowledge and insights to carve the path of change within ourselves and society. I am comfortable working with clients of all ages. Queer-positive; body-positive; polyamory-affirmative; feminist. Registered K.A.P. (kink and polyamory aware professional). I'm very interested in trades! Especially for tattoos, art and prints :) Working in person on Fridays from my office in Lichtenberg.

I speak:

EnglishItalian

Location:

Weitlingstraße 39, 10317 Berlin, Germany

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Approach

Treatment Approaches
EFT: Emotionally focused therapyRecommended for couples or individuals who want to strengthen emotional connections in relationships by exploring feelings and attachment.
Holistic approachRecommended for those who want to address their mental health through a balanced focus on mind, body, and spirit.
Person-centered approachRecommended for those looking for a supportive, non-judgmental space where they can lead the conversation and explore their feelings at their own pace.
My approach is eclectic and informed by intersectional feminist theory. I believe each person needs tailored therapy that pulls from all relevant theories and toolkits; some methods are better suited to some people and I adapt my approach based on the individual, the specific problems they are encountering, and their goals. My practice is about self-discovery and awareness and how we can channel this knowledge into changing maladaptive behaviors. A feminist therapy approach is one that focuses on seeing the personal as political. The approach views gender, sexuality, and other marginalizing forces as significant stressors on mental health, and applies a multicultural, egalitarian lens on psychotherapy. I believe therapy is a space where problematic and outdated societal ideas can be challenged, where clients can be equipped with the strength and perspective necessary to deconstruct learned behaviors and beliefs that are no longer serving them nor society at large. My praxis is informed by years of studying queer theory, liberatory psychology, anti-racism, and feminist therapy. I stand by deprivatizing therapy and healing: I let you in on my tools and resources, so that you may continue the work by yourself and within your communities. I strive to create a thoroughly safe, warm, and informal environment in therapy, where clients can be radically honest and experience relief, understanding, and compassion. This creates the right basis for then doing the necessary work to see changes and to evolve and grow past the things that are holding you back. My approach to couples therapy is informed by the Gotmann's Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (the most effective modality for couples work - currently getting certified), and queer-political approaches to love and kinship. Gathering the next group for FLINTA-only group therapy. I also offer 10-session packages on Disordered Eating with a practical, tool-oriented, behavioral approach. Contact me for more info. https://complicated.life/blog/beyond-affirmative-the-quest-for-queer-therapy/

Experience

6 years in practice1330+ sessions on It's ComplicatedAlmost 7 years at It's Complicated
2022-present Whole Festival Psychologist on-call 2019-present Private Psychological Therapist 2019-present Workplace Psychological Consultant 2018-2019 Organizational Management at Zalando 2015-2016 Psychologist at a private clinic in The Hague and Amsterdam, The Netherlands 2013 Counsellor at a dual-diagnosis rehabilitation facility in Columbia, Maryland

Education

2024 Essentials of Anti-Racist Mental Health Practice 2024 Gotmann Couple's Therapy Method, Level 1 Certification 2023 The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine - 'How to work with the traumatized brain' 2023 Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherapie 2015-2017 MSc in Clinical Psychology from the University of Leiden, The Netherlands 2011-2015 BA in Psychology from Dickinson College, Pennsylvania

Services

Intro Call

Free 30 min Online & In-person

Individual Session

€105 1 hr Online & In-person

Individual Session

Sliding scale
€85 1 hr Online & In-person

Couples Session

€160 1 hr 20 min Online & In-person

Couples

€125 50 min Online & In-person

BIPOC

€85 50 min Online & In-person

Low Income

Sliding scale
€85 50 min Online & In-person

Group Session

€60 4 hr Online & In-person

Insurances

Private PayPrivate Insurance
At a glance
Berlin, GermanyAvailable in-person, online and via text
Last active
Experienced on It's ComplicatedAlmost 7 years and 1330+ sessions on It's Complicated
Offers free 30 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Your story is important.Feel free to contact me here if you feel that we could be a good fit.
Illustration of a smiling sun peeking over a cloud, symbolizing warmth and positivity for connecting with the therapist.
Usually responds within 24 hours
Usually responds within 24 hours