Darja Stocker
Non-medical Practitioner for Psychotherapy
Welcome to my page. I am a couples therapist and trauma therapist offering sessions for individuals and couples/co-parents in German, English and French in my practice in Schillerkiez, Berlin Neukölln.
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About me
Dear individuals and dear couples
My greatest concern is to support you in getting to know yourself better and in being able to have healthy, fulfilling relationships.
When we feel good with others, we feel understood, loved, and seen. Things come easily to us, and we go through life feeling elated.
If, on the other hand, we find ourselves in difficult dynamics with our loved ones, from which there seems to be no way out, and the same escalations repeat themselves, then we feel burdened, unhappy, and lonely.
If this is how you feel now—or how you have felt in the past—I would like to support you in discovering a new way of relating to yourself and others. Even if it may be difficult to imagine today, seeking help is the first step toward feeling comfortable with yourself and others in the long term.
Dear couples (individuals, kindly scroll down)
- if you feel trapped in a vicious circle, and keep falling into the same patterns of conflict, the same unresolvable topics, if you are suffering in your relationship and feel you have to persevere—but things just aren't getting any better—then it makes sense to seek support.
-if you are a couple where one or both are suffering from past trauma you find a couples therapist in me who is also trained in traumatherapy
Dear Co-parents
- if you want to improve your relationship as parents so that you can focus entirely on the well-being of your children without being constantly held back by conflicts, then I can help you leave old, unhelpful patterns behind and create a new dynamic for this new phase of life as separated parents.
Dear Individuals
- if you are going through a breakup or feel lost, disappointed, or even traumatized after a relationship (with or without children), I can support you in finding your way back to yourself, to heal and rebuilding your life.
-If you have experienced relationship trauma in the past and still suffer from symptoms today, if you feel that 'something is wrong with me', if you suffer from anxiety and depression, or if you are unable to be the person you want to be, then trauma therapy may be right for you. I would be happy to work with you gently to help you process painful episodes from your past, enabling you to fully embrace the present and regain your ability to act.
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Location:
Media Gallery
Approach
How do I work with COUPLES / RELATIONSHIPS?
I am trained in Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy (ICEEFT), a method that works with the underlying feelings in couple relationships.
When we find ourselves in a relationship crisis, we often lose ourselves. We feel desperate, angry, irritated, and disoriented. Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you to first regain access to your own deeper feelings. With the support of the therapist, partners learn to understand the vicious cycle they're trapped in. Compassenately, they see that there are needs, longings and concerns behind their reactions. If they react to each other in an annoyed or subliminally aggressive, defensive or rejecting way, this behaviour is often, subconsciously, intended to protect wounded inner parts. This is why they find themselves in a cycle that escalates again and again without being able to solve important life problems in the long term.
In Emotionally focused therapy you identify your specific reactive cycle as a couple, break it, and find and maintain a deeper, trusting connection between you.
How do I work with INDIVIDUALS?
I am certified in Somatic Ego State Therapy (Frederick, Phillips, Zanotta). This is a hypnosomatical, traumatherapeutical method developed from the Ego-State-Therapy (Watkins & Watkins, Somatic Experiencing (Peter Levine) and Hypnotherapy (Erikson).
In the our sessions you will:
- Gain access to your inner parts through light hypnosis (while staying in full control of yourself at any time)
- (re)connect with your inner strengths and resources and built up new ones
- get to know wounded parts that have long been waiting to be seen, heard and cared for.
- adress reactive inner parts that keep you stuck in old emotional and behavioural patterns.
- kindly integrate your inner parts, create connections between them and initiate a process of helpful transformation
All together most often initiates a profound and sustainable change.
Experience
I practise in "Schillerkiez" Neukölln and online, offering therapy and coaching for individuals & couples.
I am currently also a mentor/counseller of the doctoral candidates at the Graduate School of Social Sciences, University of Basel
Education
Trained in
Couples Therapy:
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT / ICEEFT) Advanced Core Skills 1 & 2 Training with Dipl. Psych. Anne Belgram-Perkins Basic Training with Dipl. Psych. Matthias Angelsdorfer
Trauma Therapy:
Somatic Ego State Therapy® (SEST / EST-CH) with Dr. Sylvia Zanotta and Dipl. Psych. Rachporn Sankasaad
Ego-State Coach and Counsellor (ESCC / Ego State Therapy Germany and Ego State Therapy International) with Dipl. Psych. Adriana Daniela Müller
Licence as a non-medical practitioner of Psychotherapy:
Heilerlaubnis beschränkt auf das Gebiet der Psychotherapie, Gesundheitsamt Berlin Tempelhof-Schöneberg
Further Training:
Ego-State-Therapy for post traumatic stress disorder with Dipl. Psych. Kai Fritzschke, lifelessons
Hypnosystemical Therapy and Counselling with Dr. Gunther Schmidt, lifelessons
University "Szenisches Schreiben" (Playwright) at the "Universität der Künste Berlin" (MA)
Services
Couples Session
Individual Session
Insurances
