It's Complicated

Pepa Pasatu (MSc.)

(she/they)

Sexologist & Couples Counsellor

Verified by It's Complicated
Available for new clients
Are you more of a people pleaser or selfish? Answer considering sex. Do you preform or feel? Do you believe in love? With pleasure I'll support you & your partner in exploring, accepting, & expressing your sexual self.

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At a glance
Berlin, GermanyAvailable online only
Experienced on It's Complicated180+ sessions on It's Complicated
Offers free 15 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Note from PepaHey ladies, & others*, can you feel your lust and longings? Is your relationship, or are you breaking apart? Book a free intro call now.
Illustration of a smiling sun peeking over a cloud, symbolizing warmth and positivity for connecting with the therapist.
Usually responds within 4 hours

About me

I breathe deeply, I am direct and I laugh a lot (great tension release btw). I also have a lot of energy to tackle topics that others prefer to ignore. My mission is to help people feel alive and enjoy existing. Especially women and queers having experienced sexual, physical, or emotional abuse. Or neglect, less talked about - but not being cared for can hurt much more than being hit. Our goal is to feel connected! with yourself, others, the world, and the universe. My gateways for this are sexuality and body perception. More precisely, reconnecting with pleasure. Pleasure can be tainted by confusion. What actually feels good for me? What do I actually desire and like? Does this make you freeze? Pleasure is interesting, because its subjective. You, and only you decide what feels pleasurable for you. This means: you have power over your experience of pleasure. It becomes more interesting, and more complex, when we experience pleasure with someone else. How to feel myself AND connect with the other? I work with individuals and couples that feel disconnected. In couples I focus on bi-nationalities, hello to culture clashes, and how to find a common ground with different desires - eg. monogamy vs non-monogamy, high vs low sexual desire, kinky vs vanilla, children vs. no children. If any of this applies please come WITH your partner. Get a first glimpse of me by checking out my TEDx talk on sexual pleasure - one of the 25 essential talks of 2025: https://youtu.be/oel9-7Az0vw?si=CTVeJ4bAoVdGoJ64 My formation: I hold an MSc in Clinical Psycho-Sexology (Sapienza University of Rome & Tor Vergata, Italy), and a BSc. in Psychology (University of Potsdam, Germany & University of Buenos Aires, Argentina). Yes, I'm multicultural, even in my studies. I am a polyglot: English, German, Spanish and Italian so far, French in process. I am also a natural redhead - a fiery white privileged minority.

I speak:

EnglishGermanSpanishItalian

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Location:

Berlin, Germany

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Approach

Treatment Approaches
Body therapyRecommended for those who want to connect their mind and body to release stress or trauma through physical sensations and movement.
Clinical psychologyRecommended for those who need help with diagnosing and treating more complex mental health issues, often involving assessments and evidence-based treatments.
Sex therapyRecommended for individuals or couples who want help improving their sex life, intimacy, or overcoming sexual issues in a supportive environment.
Our sessions are a space to identify your belief systems and (if you want!) find new ones. It depends on your perspective - if you continue surviving or decide to live. I'm happy to support you with questions, challenges and experiments to make new experiences and rewire your expectations towards yourself and life. My glasses are tainted by a + bio-psycho-social perspective ---> considering you in the wider context of your relationships, culture, and past experiences + sex-positive perspective ---> let's make it easy to talk about sex, as if it were talking about the weather I draw from following methods **cognitive-behavioral (working with challenges, changing current self-beliefs) **psychodynamic (focussing on the relationship and how we have learned to relate to others across life) **embodiment (what I feel in my body) **mindfulness (how I judge and observe myself and others). With other words: I am eclectic, as I believe all therapeutic methods have different strengths and weaknesses. By having a background in multiple I can adapt to what seems most fitting in the given situation. Because most importantly - I offer a safer, as non judgemental space as possible (bear with me, as I am also human and make mistakes) - in which you can reconnect with your inner sensations and desires - giving room for self acceptance & change Book a free intro call as a first step in this curious journey of lust and love. I offer sexological, psychological, and relational coaching sessions. Sessions that are not cancelled a minimum of 24hs beforehand are charged at full rate.

Experience

180+ sessions on It's Complicated
since 2025: Organisation and co-moderation of the monthly Sex Journal Club online - for early careers of sexology since 2024: Private sexological practice 2024 - 2025: Researcher at the Karl Landsteiner Private University (Austria) 2021 - 2022: Research assistant at the Laboratory of Haptics, Paul Flechsig Institute, University of Leipzig (Germany) since 2018: Sexual education and pleasure focused workshop facilitation at schools, festivals and sex-positive parties

Education

University 2022 - 2024: MSc. Clinical Psychosexology (with honors)at Sapienza University and University of Tor Vergata (Italy) 2016 - 2022: BSc. Psychology at University of Potsdam (Germany) 2018-2021: Study of Psychology at University of Buenos Aires (Argentina) Specializations 2024 - Psychopathologies of couple relationships - Prof. Patrizia Velotti - Trauma, sexual abuse and gender violence - Prof. Carola - Genderstudies - Dr. Guido Giovanardi 2023 - Fertility and infertility - Prof. Donatella Caserta - Psychopharmacology - Prof. Cinzia Niolu 2023 - Clinical aspects of paraphilias and deviance - Dr. Guido Giovanardi - Psychopathology of sexual behaviour - Dr. Erika Limoncin 2022 - Psychoendocrinology and medical sexology - Prof. Dr. Emmanuele A. Jannini 2021 - Sexual education formation - "Mit Sicherheit Verliebt" 2019 - Sexuality in later ages of life - Prof. Ricardo Iacub 2016 & 2021 - Introduction to sexual medicine and sexual sciences - Prof. Dr. Dr. Klaus M. Beier

Services

Intro Call

Free 15 min Online

Couples Session

€160 1 hr 20 min Online

Individual Session

Sliding scale
€75 50 min Online
If money is an issue I am happy to help by giving you a more accessible price. Only a few spots are reserved for this pricing category.

Individual Session

€110 50 min Online

Insurances

Private Pay
At a glance
Berlin, GermanyAvailable online only
Experienced on It's Complicated180+ sessions on It's Complicated
Offers free 15 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Note from PepaHey ladies, & others*, can you feel your lust and longings? Is your relationship, or are you breaking apart? Book a free intro call now.
Illustration of a smiling sun peeking over a cloud, symbolizing warmth and positivity for connecting with the therapist.
Usually responds within 4 hours

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