My work as an online consulter is influenced from my background as a cognitive behavior psychologist and therapist who believes that certain behavior patterns like feeling stressed, the fear of failure, working to much, feeling anxious, having a low trust into oneself and its own resources, striving for perfection which could lead into a lot of pressure and negative feelings and thinking structures, sexual problems are first acquired through live history events (neglected basic needs in particular through nurture, negative life experience and insufficient emotional development). These so called formation conditions interact with internal and external burdens (a stressful event for instance a break up, new work) and are reinforced by sustaining conditions (for instance can't say no) which lead into a vicious circle. In the consultation, we try to look at these factors together and change them in the client's personal pace, to break the vicious circle. The goal is that in the end the client or the couple becomes his/her or their own advisor.