Jonas Rothlaender
Systemic Counsellor & Couples Counsellor
I specialise in international and intercultural couples who feel distant or misunderstood. Whether you moved abroad together or relocated for love, I support you in reconnecting across your differences.
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About me
Our lives are made of relationships – with ourselves, with our partners, with our families and the people we work alongside. These relationships shape how we feel, how we grow, and the stories we tell about who we are.
As a relationship counsellor, I support people in understanding the patterns that quietly shape their connections – and in finding their way back to closeness, clarity, and a stronger sense of themselves.
My fascination with these dynamics first led me somewhere unexpected: filmmaking. In 2015 I graduated as a film director from the German Film and Television Academy Berlin (dffb), and in my fiction and documentary work I explored family, love, and sexuality – always with an eye for the patterns that shape our relationships. Over time, that same curiosity drew me toward working with people more directly.
I trained as a certified systemic counsellor at the Systemic Centre (WISPO) in Germany, and I continue to deepen my practice through further training – including systemic couples and sex therapy (Ulrich Clement), New Authority and Leadership (Haim Omer), and ACT – Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. I draw on regular peer consultation and supervision to support my clients as reflectively as possible.
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Location:
Media Gallery
Approach
Whatever brings you to counselling, my role is to support you in seeing the patterns at play more clearly – and in finding ways forward that feel right for you. As a systemic counsellor, I support you in recognising these dynamics, strengthening your relationships, and dealing with conflict and crisis with more clarity and confidence – so that you can develop more fully, both in your relationships and as an individual.
Couples counselling Couples face a variety of challenges, including how the needs of their relationship and intimacy conflict with careers, parenthood, or caring for relatives. What is more, differing experiences and personal histories can add extra strain to daily life. Counselling provides a space to understand conflicts, find solutions, and nurture a stronger, more connected partnership.
International couples counselling In binational or intercultural partnerships, different worlds often come together — distinct languages, values, and habits. This can create additional challenges: a feeling of having been uprooted, the pressure to adapt, and a sense of imbalance. Whether a couple moves abroad together, maintains a long-distance relationship, or one partner relocates for love, counselling can help preserve understanding and closeness despite the cultural differences.
Individual counselling Sometimes we encounter moments in life or in relationships that invite us to seek new orientation and reflection. Individual counselling can help you pause, gain clarity, and reconnect with yourself — in times of decision-making, stress, crisis, or simply to gain a better understanding of your current life situation.
Family counselling Families — in any constellation — are intimate, living systems, full of energy and always subject to change. In families, because of the number of people concerned, tensions, misunderstandings and recurring conflicts commonly arise. Family counselling provides a space to recognise entrenched patterns, develop new perspectives, and find solutions that serve everyone involved.
Experience
Self-Employed Systemic Counsellor – Finland, Germany (2024–present)
Provide systemic counselling for individuals, couples, and families, focusing on strengthening diverse relational dynamics and promoting personal growth
Specialize in international couples and tandem couple counselling
Offer both online and in-person sessions, as well as personalized workshops exploring relationships and family history, resource-oriented and empowering clients in the present
Integrate systemic, ACT, and trauma-informed approaches tailored to each client’s needs
Engage in regular peer consultation and supervision to ensure reflective, high-quality support
Empower clients to navigate personal and relational challenges, improve communication, and foster sustainable relationship patterns
Education
Certified Systemic Counsellor – Systemic Centre (WISPO), Germany (2024–2026) Focused on supporting individuals and couples in improving relationships and personal development
Continuing Education / Professional Development
Systemic Couples and Sex Therapy – Ulrich Clement via Life Lessons Specialized training in relational dynamics and sexual health
New Authority and Leadership – based on Haim Omer, Mona Wedegärtner Strategies for effective leadership and conflict resolution in family and organizational settings
ACT – Acceptance and Commitment Therapy – Katrin Normann Evidence-based approach to behavior change and psychological flexibility
Clarifying Goals in Sexual Counselling – Dr. phil. Tilman Staemmler Techniques for structured, client-centered sexual counselling
Trauma-Sensitive Approach to Attachment Wounds – Volkmar Suhr Approaches for addressing attachment-related challenges with trauma awareness
Introduction to Eating Disorders – Shirley Hartlage Foundational knowledge in supporting clients with eating-related challenges
Services
Intro Call
Individual Session
Couples Session
Individual Session
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