Many years of experience outside the walls of a private practice office have shown me that mutual realness, trust, and meaningful connection in therapy are incredibly powerful tools for growth and healing. I use a mix of therapeutic approaches and perspectives to achieve that in my work with clients.
-- Relational psychodynamic therapy.
My counseling approach is informed by relational psychodynamic therapy. This framework is supported by many years of research in psychology, interpersonal neurobiology, and relational science. Relational work is collaborative and encourages both of us to show up authentically in session. We'll focus on building a genuine, trusting therapeutic relationship—a space where you feel safe and supported enough to show up as your full self, reflect, explore, experiment, make mistakes, learn, heal, and grow. We'll consider how your past relationships and life circumstances have influenced you. The sessions are a safer space to gain insight on yourself and patterns in your life that have left you feeling stuck, and to experiment with new ways of communicating and relating.
-- Trauma-informed.
My specialist knowledge of trauma shapes the way I view your experiences and specific needs, and the techniques and interventions I use to support you. It means I prioritize creating a safe and collaborative environment in session, with transparency and respect for your boundaries.
-- Integrative.
I also integrate insight and interventions from other therapeutic approaches and theories, depending on your needs and personality. I most often draw on humanistic therapy, somatic work (mind-body connection), "parts work", and psychoeducation.
-- Affirming.
My approach is affirming of your diverse identities and life experiences, from gender and sexuality to neurodiversity and kink. Many clinicians talk about being queer-affirming, trans-affirming, neuro-affirming, kink-affirming, and sex-positive—but what does it actually mean? To me, being affirming is an active process. It's recognizing, accepting, and respecting my clients' identities and lifestyles. It's also acknowledging systemic injustices, pathologizing, and erasure. And it involves actively working to create an inviting, supportive space for them to be their full selves without judgment while gently dismantling internalized shame and stigma.
-- Holistic & strengths-based.
I regard each person holistically and see not just you, but also your environment. Your psychological wellbeing is not just about emotions—it's connected to your physical wellness, your social circumstances, your cultural identities, finances, basic needs, oppressions or discrimination, and the laws and policies governing you. With this in mind, my work is strengths-based and resource-activating. We'll examine the strengths and wisdom you already have, figure out the gaps, and identify real resources to add to your mental health toolbox.
-- Lived experience.
Queer, neurodivergent (AuDHD), goth, alternative lifestyles and relationship practices—I connect personally with many identities and communities (you might connect with some of these, too!) and the experiences and perspectives I've gained have enriched my professional work as well. I won't share every detail about myself, but I will show up more fully and directly than old-school therapists or analysts.
Overall, I aim for the therapy space to be a comfortable, safer-feeling space where you feel able to show up in all your complexity and messiness—a space for deep talks and lighter ones, agreeing *and* disagreeing, working through ruptures, and experiencing what it's like to be unconditionally accepted and valued. It is important to me to meet you where you're at in your journey and in any given session. I warmly welcome ugly feelings, ugly language, ugly-crying, and bad hair days. The important thing is showing up.