It's Complicated

Whitney Summerer

(she/her)

Counsellor & Couples Therapist

Available for new clients

I specialise in:

At a glance
Paris, FranceAvailable online only

About me

I am a therapist drawn to the in-between spaces — the places where identity shifts, relationships stretch, grief opens the heart, and old stories ask to be rewritten. Many of the people who find me are intuitive, creative, sensitive, or self-described “misfits.” They have always felt a little outside the mold. They are thoughtful and self-aware, but tired of repeating the same relational patterns. They want a life they are proud of — one that feels honest, embodied, and deeply their own. My work is rooted in attachment and trauma-informed therapy, but it is equally shaped by depth psychology, parts work, nervous system awareness, and a reverence for the symbolic and unseen layers of experience. I listen for archetypes, protective strategies, inherited family narratives, and the quiet wisdom beneath survival patterns. Therapy with me is not about pathologizing who you are. It is about understanding how you learned to survive — and gently expanding your capacity to love, to choose, and to live with greater alignment. I am especially passionate about working with relationally complex and non-traditional partnerships, creatives, spiritually curious thinkers, and people navigating big transitions. I believe healing happens when we integrate the rational and the intuitive, the practical and the soulful. Together we map your inner landscape — the nervous system patterns, attachment wounds, longings, gifts, and parts of you that have been waiting to be reclaimed. At its heart, my work is about integrity. About building a life you can stand inside with pride. About relationships that feel secure and alive. About moving from old protective roles into authorship of your own story. Therapy becomes a space where your sensitivity is strength, your complexity is welcomed, and your growth is both grounded and expansive.

I speak:

English

Location:

Paris, France

Approach

Treatment Approaches
EFT: Emotionally focused therapyRecommended for couples or individuals who want to strengthen emotional connections in relationships by exploring feelings and attachment.
Psychodynamic therapyRecommended for those looking to explore their emotions deeply and understand how past experiences shape their present life.
Systemic ApproachRecommended for those who want to look at how different systems—like family, work, or society—affect their behavior and relationships.
My therapeutic style is relational, depth-oriented, and grounded in attachment and trauma-informed practice. I hold a master’s degree in mental health counseling and have advanced training in attachment theory, trauma treatment, and relational therapy. Alongside clinical frameworks, I integrate somatic awareness, parts work, and depth psychology to support healing that is both psychologically rigorous and intuitively attuned. I work with individuals and couples who are thoughtful, creative, and often sensitive to complexity — people who may feel slightly outside the mainstream and who are seeking something deeper than symptom management. Many clients come navigating relationship challenges, identity shifts, grief, or major life transitions. Together, we explore how early attachment experiences, family systems, and nervous system patterns shape current dynamics. Rather than pathologizing your responses, we understand them as intelligent adaptations — and then expand your range of choice. In our work, we pay attention to both the body and the symbolic. We track activation and shutdown in the nervous system while also listening for recurring themes, archetypes, dreams, and inherited narratives. I am interested in the parts of you that over-function, withdraw, perform, protect, or long for more. Therapy becomes a space of integration — not eliminating aspects of yourself, but bringing them into conscious relationship. With couples and relational systems, I focus on attachment injuries, pursue-withdraw cycles, and the deeper vulnerability beneath conflict. I support partners in slowing reactive patterns, practicing repair, and building emotional maturity. I approach both traditional and non-traditional relationship structures with curiosity, clarity, and respect for complexity. As an English-speaking therapist working with clients across Europe, I am particularly attuned to the psychological impact of relocation, cultural transition, and identity evolution. Living between systems can surface attachment themes, autonomy struggles, and questions of belonging. Therapy offers a steady place to process these layers while building internal security. My presence is warm, direct, and collaborative. I will gently challenge avoidance when it protects you from necessary truth, and I will sit with you when grief or fear needs room to unfold. The aim of our work is coherence — the kind that allows you to build relationships that feel secure and alive, and to create a life you can stand inside with pride.

Services

Intro Call

Free 20 min Online

Individual Session

€80 1 hr Online

Couples Session

€100 1 hr Online

Insurances

Private Pay
At a glance
Paris, FranceAvailable online only

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