It's Complicated

Whitney Summerer

(she/her)

Counsellor & Couples Therapist

Verified by It's Complicated
Available for new clients

Relational therapy for thoughtful, unconventional people navigating attachment, neurodivergence, non-monogamy, identity, grief, and complex relationships.

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Paris, FranceAvailable online only
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About me

I am a relational, depth-oriented therapist working with individuals and couples around attachment, identity, neurodivergence, sexuality, grief, and relationship patterns.

Many of the people who find me are thoughtful, sensitive, creative, queer, neurodivergent, or living outside conventional relationship or life structures. You may understand yourself well and still find yourself repeating painful patterns — over-functioning, withdrawing, losing yourself in relationships, struggling to trust, or feeling caught between intimacy and independence.

I have particular experience working with polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships, queer clients, mixed-neurotype couples, and people navigating significant shifts in identity or relationship structure.

My work is warm, curious, and non-pathologizing. I am interested in understanding not just what you do, but why certain patterns developed, what they have protected, and whether they still serve you.

More details on my approach and services are on my practice site: whitneysummerer.com

I speak:

English

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Location:

Paris, France

Approach

Treatment Approaches
Couples therapySupport for couples working through problems and who want to gain insight into the relational dynamics that contribute to the problem.
Integrative therapy Recommended for those who prefer a flexible approach that combines different therapies to meet their unique needs.
Psychodynamic therapyRecommended for those looking to explore their emotions deeply and understand how past experiences shape their present life.

My style is relational, attachment-focused, and psychodynamic, with influences from parts work, trauma-informed therapy, and somatic awareness.

Insight matters, but therapy with me is not only about understanding yourself intellectually. We also pay attention to what happens in real time — how you protect yourself, how you respond when connection feels threatened, and how old relational patterns may still shape your choices.

I am warm and collaborative, but not passive. I will name patterns, ask difficult questions, and gently challenge avoidance or defensiveness when it is keeping you stuck.

With couples, I focus on the cycle between you rather than deciding who is right. We work toward greater honesty, accountability, differentiation, repair, and the ability to stay connected without either person losing themselves.

Experience

4 years in practice

I hold a Master of Science in Professional Mental Health Counseling and am a Professional Counselor Associate licensed in Oregon and Washington.

My clinical work is grounded in attachment, couples therapy, relational psychotherapy, developmental trauma, neurodivergence, sexuality, and non-monogamous relationships.

Before becoming a therapist, I spent more than a decade working in government and previously lived abroad teaching English in South Korea. Now based in Paris, I bring an international perspective to my work with expats, intercultural relationships, and people navigating identity, belonging, and reinvention.

Education

I earned a Master of Science in Professional Mental Health Counseling from Lewis & Clark College in 2022, with graduate training in attachment theory, developmental trauma, relational psychotherapy, and integrative approaches. I previously earned a Bachelor of Science in Psychology from Portland State University.

My post-graduate training includes Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), the Gottman Method, Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), introductory EMDR training, and Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST). I continue to pursue advanced study in attachment-based, relational, couples, and somatic approaches.

I am a Professional Counselor Associate in Oregon and a Mental Health Counselor Associate in Washington, practicing under supervision in accordance with state requirements.

Services

Intro Call

Free 20 min Online

Couples Session

€120 1 hr Online

Couples Session

€175 1 hr 30 min Online

Individual Session

€100 1 hr Online

Insurances

Private Pay
At a glance
Paris, FranceAvailable online only
Last active
Offers free 20 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Illustration of a smiling sun peeking over a cloud, symbolizing warmth and positivity for connecting with the therapist.
Usually responds after 24 hours
Usually responds after 24 hours