My approach and orientation are grounded in rigorous clinical training, education, and professional development as well as ethical standards of care. Through my specialized training, I gained a strong foundation in psychodynamic theory (how the past affects us unconsciously in the present), the biopsychosocial model (how biological, psychological, and social/environmental factors shape us), and trauma work, as well as practical experience using different therapeutic modalities in supervised clinical field placements and intensive trainings.
My style is relational, person-centered, attuned, collaborative, and trauma-informed. Relationships can cause the greatest hurt - but they're also what can heal relational wounds. By "relationships," I mean all sorts: our relationships with our caregivers in childhood; relationships with family, friends, partners, colleagues; our relationship with ourselves. You may see the word "attachment" floating around. This term basically means how we connect with others in a relationship, feel safety and trust with them (or not!), and then how we learn to develop, maintain, and interpret relationships in general in life. Through our experiences with our caregivers as children, and in other relationships later on, we develop internal maps for understanding ourselves and others - whether and under what circumstances we can be liked or loved; whether other people are trustworthy, safe, dependable; if, when, and with whom emotional or physical intimacy are safe and OK. Sometimes these maps lead us away from safety, security and meaningful connection later in life. People who were neglected, abused or chronically let down by their caregivers or important figures in their lives can struggle to feel safe in connection with others. We can end up stuck feeling anxious, sad, lonely, angry, dissatisfied or disconnected from others or ourselves. So... how do we get un-stuck, heal, or just feel better?
Here is where relational work comes in. In the therapy world, this means that the therapeutic relationship - that's you and me - is the driving force for healing, and that our sessions are a secure, low-stakes space for you to experiment and (re)experience relationships and healthier attachment. My work is to be emotionally present, attuned to you, reliable and authentic. I work with you in the "here-and-now" to create a space to explore old and new ways of relating or being in relationship with yourself or others. This might mean:
- reflecting on old patterns and painful past experiences where you were neglected or let down in important relationships, or what some call "attachment wounds";
- observing what's happening right now in the room and exploring where else these patterns do or don't play out in your life;
- working through a conflict or rupture in the session and test-driving a new approach to resolving conflict in the outside world;
and much more.
I am here for your worries, anger, frustration, suspicion, conflict, excitement and all other flavors of emotion. I also bring my own personality into the sessions - I am not a "blank-slate" therapist. Laughter, tears and cursing are all welcome in this space!
As a trained social worker with a systemic lens, I also pay special attention to systemic barriers and injustices. Broken social systems, financial stress, racial and gender/sexual oppressions, intergenerational trauma... Society and politics absolutely affect our wellbeing, and I bring this perspective into the counseling space. Political stress and anxiety in particular is a huge topic for many right now. Some sessions might be more about immediate problem-solving and resource activation than "deeper" work - and that work is just as important.
My work is also person-centered: I see you as an equal and regard you holistically, with dignity, respect, and unconditional positive regard. You are the expert on your own life and experiences. My goal is to listen, support, accompany, connect you to resources (external or internal), get curious with you, sit with the many complex feelings that surface during the growth process, and be very, very human with you.