Pepa Pasatu (MSc.)
Sexologist & Couples Counsellor
Are you more of a people pleaser or selfish? Answer considering sex. Do you preform or feel? Do you believe in love? With pleasure I'll support you & your partner in exploring, accepting, & expressing your sexual self.
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About me
I work with women and queers who have had bad sex or difficult relationships and want to change this. The people pleasers, were the inner voice just seems so much quieter than anything or anyone else. When desire is almost a long lost memory; arousal and sexual orientation seems confusing; sex is avoided or a chore. When orgasm comes sometimes when masturbating, yet rarely when having partnered sex.
Pleasure can be tainted by confusion. What actually feels good for me? What do I desire and like?
Does this make you freeze?
Our goal is to feel connected with yourself, others, the world, and the universe.
Pleasure is interesting, because its subjective. You, and only you decide what feels pleasurable for you. This means: you have power over your experience of pleasure.
It becomes more interesting, and more complex, when we experience pleasure with someone else. How to feel myself AND connect with the other?
Next to individuals, I work with couples that feel disconnected. In this case we focus on balancing between security and novelty. Finding a common ground and learning to communicate it - eg. between high vs low sexual desire, monogamy vs non-monogamy, kinky vs vanilla, children vs. no children. Further, I focus on bi-nationalities and expats, hello to culture clash.
About me: I breathe deeply, I am direct and I laugh a lot (great tension release btw). I also have the energy to tackle topics that others prefer to ignore. Like sex, gender equality, and all the gaps between genders, eg. pay gap, orgasm gap, medical research gap. Yes women and men have some biological differences, but the cultural ones are a bit over the top. And the similarities are bigger than you might think. So spectrum, vs black and white. I believe knowledge is power. Knowing your body, your limits, what arouses you. Yet, with sexuality it’s not enough to know, it’s also about doing, experimenting, playing, feeling.
Get a first glimpse of me by checking out my TEDx talk on sexual pleasure - one of the 25 essential talks of 2025: https://youtu.be/oel9-7Az0vw?si=CTVeJ4bAoVdGoJ64
My formation: I hold an MSc. in Clinical Psycho-Sexology (Sapienza University of Rome & Tor Vergata, Italy), and a BSc. in Psychology (University of Potsdam, Germany & University of Buenos Aires, Argentina).
Yes, I'm multicultural, even in my studies. I am a polyglot: English, German, Spanish and Italian so far, French in process. I am also a natural redhead - a fiery white privileged minority.
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Location:
Media Gallery
Approach
Our sessions are a space to identify your belief systems and (if you want!) find new ones. It depends on your perspective - if you continue surviving or decide to live.
I'm happy to support you with questions, challenges and experiments to make new experiences and rewire your expectations towards yourself and life.
My glasses are tainted by a
- bio-psycho-social perspective ---> considering you in the wider context of your relationships, culture, and past experiences
- sex-positive perspective ---> let's make it easy to talk about sex, as if it were talking about the weather
I draw from following methods **cognitive-behavioral (working with challenges, changing current self-beliefs) **psychodynamic (focussing on the relationship and how we have learned to relate to others across life) **embodiment (what I feel in my body) **mindfulness (how I judge and observe myself and others).
With other words: I am eclectic, as I believe all therapeutic methods have different strengths and weaknesses. By having a background in multiple I can adapt to what seems most fitting in the given situation.
Because most importantly
- I offer a safer, as non judgemental space as possible (bear with me, as I am also human and make mistakes)
- in which you can reconnect with your inner sensations and desires
- giving room for self acceptance & change
Book a free intro call as a first step in this curious journey of lust and love.
I offer sexological, psychological, and relational coaching sessions. Sessions that are not cancelled a minimum of 24hs beforehand are charged at full rate.
Experience
since 2025: Organisation and co-moderation of the monthly Sex Journal Club online - for early careers of sexology since 2024: Private sexological practice 2024 - 2025: Researcher at the Karl Landsteiner Private University (Austria) 2021 - 2022: Research assistant at the Laboratory of Haptics, Paul Flechsig Institute, University of Leipzig (Germany) since 2018: Sexual education and pleasure focused workshop facilitation at schools, festivals and sex-positive parties
Education
University 2022 - 2024: MSc. Clinical Psychosexology (with honors)at Sapienza University and University of Tor Vergata (Italy) 2016 - 2022: BSc. Psychology at University of Potsdam (Germany) 2018-2021: Study of Psychology at University of Buenos Aires (Argentina)
Specializations 2024 - Psychopathologies of couple relationships - Prof. Patrizia Velotti - Trauma, sexual abuse and gender violence - Prof. Carola - Genderstudies - Dr. Guido Giovanardi 2023 - Fertility and infertility - Prof. Donatella Caserta - Psychopharmacology - Prof. Cinzia Niolu 2023 - Clinical aspects of paraphilias and deviance - Dr. Guido Giovanardi - Psychopathology of sexual behaviour - Dr. Erika Limoncin 2022 - Psychoendocrinology and medical sexology - Prof. Dr. Emmanuele A. Jannini 2021 - Sexual education formation - "Mit Sicherheit Verliebt" 2019 - Sexuality in later ages of life - Prof. Ricardo Iacub 2016 & 2021 - Introduction to sexual medicine and sexual sciences - Prof. Dr. Dr. Klaus M. Beier
Services
Intro Call
Couples Session
Individual Session
Individual Session
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