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Against Regulation: Uncertainty, Oppression, and Why Staying Calm Isn't Always the Answer
60 minutes
Livestream
Hosted by Johanne Schwensen, Dariia Milinchuk
About this event
A live conversation with psychologist Dariia Milinchuk
We're living through a moment that tells us, constantly, to calm down. Regulate your nervous system. Breathe through it. Don't let the algorithm, or the news cycle, or the existential dread get to you. But what if the prescription is part of the problem?
In this conversation, we'll explore why the Western wellness fixation on "staying regulated" can feel less like care and more like control. Why fear, hopelessness, and uncertainty are not pathologies to be managed but reasonable responses to an unreasonable world. Why AI and social media don't just amplify anxiety but actively erode our capacity to tolerate the unknown, and how comparing the way different societies hold uncertainty reveals something uncomfortable about who gets told to breathe and who doesn't have the luxury.
Dariia Milinchuk is a psychologist working with trust and attachment, and specialising in recovery from relational trauma and narcissistic abuse. She brings a cross-cultural lens shaped by her Ukrainian experience and a growing refusal to accept "stay regulated" as a neutral instruction.
We'll get into:
In this conversation, we'll explore why the Western wellness fixation on "staying regulated" can feel less like care and more like control. Why fear, hopelessness, and uncertainty are not pathologies to be managed but reasonable responses to an unreasonable world. Why AI and social media don't just amplify anxiety but actively erode our capacity to tolerate the unknown, and how comparing the way different societies hold uncertainty reveals something uncomfortable about who gets told to breathe and who doesn't have the luxury.
Dariia Milinchuk is a psychologist working with trust and attachment, and specialising in recovery from relational trauma and narcissistic abuse. She brings a cross-cultural lens shaped by her Ukrainian experience and a growing refusal to accept "stay regulated" as a neutral instruction.
We'll get into:
- Hopelessness, helplessness, and the fear of uncertainty
- How AI and social media play a part in our capacity for resilience
- What different contexts reveal about the politics of "staying calm"
Your hosts
Johanne Schwensen
Clinical Psychologist·
Copenhagen
AnxietyParenthoodADHD: Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder Crisis Response
I completed my education as a psychologist at the University of Copenhagen in 2013, with a master's degree and experience within the fields of narrative therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy and a...Dariia Milinchuk
Counsellor·
Amsterdam
Couples therapyRelationshipsNarcissistic abuseNarcissismRacism and racial trauma
I completed my education in Kyiv Institute of Modern Psychology and Psychotherapy, in 2022, with master's degree in clinical psychology. In the meantime, I additionally trained in Relational Life T....png)
