Boris Herzberg
Couples Therapist & Psychoanalytic Counsellor
Available for new clients
I help long-term couples resolve conflicts, improve communication, deal with negative emotions and rebuild connection.
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At a glance
Experienced on It's ComplicatedAlmost 3 years on It's Complicated
Offers free 20 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Note from BorisLet me know and I’ll be happy to share some helpful articles that introduce you to couples and individual therapy, free of charge.
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About me
With over a decade of professional experience, I hold couples therapy & counseling as a unifying experience. Together we'll explore what keeps you connected, what doesn't work out between you - and why, what your realistic expectations from one another can be, what you agree on, and what you can respectfully disagree on while still maintaining understanding and communication.
Personally, not just professionally, I put utmost importance on the value of relationships, being married myself and parenting 4 kids (well, and 2 cats, though they’ve grown pretty independently). ;)
I strive to create a safe, accommodating and non-judgmental space where you can talk openly about what matters to you most, personally and emotionally. Having lived in several countries, I understand first-hand the challenges of expats and immigrants, as well as people affected by war.
My online sessions are available to couples and individuals worldwide. You can get a sense of how I work through my Psychology Today blog, where I share useful insights about relationship psychology and emotional regulation: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/contributors/boris-herzberg.
Personally, not just professionally, I put utmost importance on the value of relationships, being married myself and parenting 4 kids (well, and 2 cats, though they’ve grown pretty independently). ;)
I strive to create a safe, accommodating and non-judgmental space where you can talk openly about what matters to you most, personally and emotionally. Having lived in several countries, I understand first-hand the challenges of expats and immigrants, as well as people affected by war.
My online sessions are available to couples and individuals worldwide. You can get a sense of how I work through my Psychology Today blog, where I share useful insights about relationship psychology and emotional regulation: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/contributors/boris-herzberg.
I speak:
EnglishHebrewRussian
Location:
Alicante, Spain
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Approach
Treatment Approaches
CounsellingRecommended for those who want to talk through their emotional challenges with a professional in a safe, supportive environment.
Family therapyRecommended for families who want to resolve conflicts, improve communication, and understand each other better within the family dynamic.
Psychodynamic therapyRecommended for those looking to explore their emotions deeply and understand how past experiences shape their present life.
If you feel misunderstood or unheard by your partner, it can be exhausting and frustrating, especially when you hope they'll be the one who understands and accepts you most. As with many couples, it was probably different at the beginning of your relationship, but something got lost or forgotten along the way: the intimacy diminished, the satisfaction subsided, the anger is growing, and so is the distance. Now you may feel unsure not just of what to do about it, but even how to start talking about it - and whether it will be helpful at all. It's even harder to talk as your patience dwindles, and you might question whether you need this relationship at all, even though leaving is painful.
What's reassuring though, is that many couples feel this way before finding a path back to one another - and I feel lucky and grateful to accompany them.
I help couples and individuals who:
-Feel stuck in arguments
-Have lost emotional and physical closeness
-Are dealing with stressful events or significant life changes (birth of a child, relocation, pregnancy-related stress, loss of a family member etc)
-Are overwhelmed by, suppressing, or unsure how to process difficult emotions (eg anger, resentment, guilt, disappointment, confusion or emptiness)
-Want to learn to communicate better
-Are considering separation but want to be sure they've tried everything
-Want to stay on peaceful and friendly terms when children are involved
In our work, I encourage honest dialogue between you without pushing or forcing you, generally adhering to the principles of psychoanalytic psychodynamic therapy: following the subjects you raise, analyzing your here-and-now together with you, focusing on emotions, helping you notice your blind spots - while discussing what is important to you, both in your present and your past.
Additionally I work with individuals, supporting them in processing grief and loss, and finding emotional balance.
Feel free to contact me with any questions you might have or to schedule an online session, here or at herzberg.boris (at) gmail(dot)com (check your SPAM folder when waiting for reply).
What's reassuring though, is that many couples feel this way before finding a path back to one another - and I feel lucky and grateful to accompany them.
I help couples and individuals who:
-Feel stuck in arguments
-Have lost emotional and physical closeness
-Are dealing with stressful events or significant life changes (birth of a child, relocation, pregnancy-related stress, loss of a family member etc)
-Are overwhelmed by, suppressing, or unsure how to process difficult emotions (eg anger, resentment, guilt, disappointment, confusion or emptiness)
-Want to learn to communicate better
-Are considering separation but want to be sure they've tried everything
-Want to stay on peaceful and friendly terms when children are involved
In our work, I encourage honest dialogue between you without pushing or forcing you, generally adhering to the principles of psychoanalytic psychodynamic therapy: following the subjects you raise, analyzing your here-and-now together with you, focusing on emotions, helping you notice your blind spots - while discussing what is important to you, both in your present and your past.
Additionally I work with individuals, supporting them in processing grief and loss, and finding emotional balance.
Feel free to contact me with any questions you might have or to schedule an online session, here or at herzberg.boris (at) gmail(dot)com (check your SPAM folder when waiting for reply).
Experience
Almost 3 years at It's Complicated
2019 – Present
Psychodynamic and Emotionally Oriented Therapist, Counsellor, and Coach
-Couples: Focus on relationships and emotional regulation
-Individuals: Focus on relationships, emotional regulation, and the processing of trauma, loss, and grief
2014 – Present
Counsellor and Goal-Oriented Coach
-Working with adults on relationships, emotional regulation, and goal achievement
Psychodynamic and Emotionally Oriented Therapist, Counsellor, and Coach
-Couples: Focus on relationships and emotional regulation
-Individuals: Focus on relationships, emotional regulation, and the processing of trauma, loss, and grief
2014 – Present
Counsellor and Goal-Oriented Coach
-Working with adults on relationships, emotional regulation, and goal achievement
Education
2018-2021:
-Psychoanalytic therapist,
East European Institute of Psychoanalysis, St-Petersburg
-Counseling psychologist,
Moscow Institute for Supervision and Group Therapy
2014: Master Coach MCI, Coaching Association of Israel, ICA
2002: BA Social Sciences, Ben Gurion University
Additional Specialization and Professional Development Courses:
2025: Psychoanalytic Therapy for Couples, East European Institute of Psychoanalysis
2022-2023: Therapy for Couples in Crisis, East European Institute of Psychoanalysis
2021-2024:
-Therapy of Loss
-Traumatic and Normative Crises in Family and Marriage
-Dependent Behavior and the Phenomenon of Codependency in the Family
-Love Triangles
-Children's Fears
-Family and Adolescent Crisis
-Adolescent Self-Destructive Behavior
-Child in Divorce Situation: Loyalty Conflict
-Psychoanalytic therapist,
East European Institute of Psychoanalysis, St-Petersburg
-Counseling psychologist,
Moscow Institute for Supervision and Group Therapy
2014: Master Coach MCI, Coaching Association of Israel, ICA
2002: BA Social Sciences, Ben Gurion University
Additional Specialization and Professional Development Courses:
2025: Psychoanalytic Therapy for Couples, East European Institute of Psychoanalysis
2022-2023: Therapy for Couples in Crisis, East European Institute of Psychoanalysis
2021-2024:
-Therapy of Loss
-Traumatic and Normative Crises in Family and Marriage
-Dependent Behavior and the Phenomenon of Codependency in the Family
-Love Triangles
-Children's Fears
-Family and Adolescent Crisis
-Adolescent Self-Destructive Behavior
-Child in Divorce Situation: Loyalty Conflict
Services
Intro Call
Free • 20 min • Text
Intro Call
€20 • 20 min • Online
Individual Session
€100 • 50 min • Online
Couples Session
€125 • 55 min • Online
Couples Session
€150 • 1 hr 10 min • Online
Insurances
Private PayPrivate Insurance
At a glance
Experienced on It's ComplicatedAlmost 3 years on It's Complicated
Offers free 20 minute introductory callThis provider offers a free introductory call
Note from BorisLet me know and I’ll be happy to share some helpful articles that introduce you to couples and individual therapy, free of charge.
Usually responds within 2 hours
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