Tamara Kuselman
Counsellor & Couples Counsellor
I support individuals, couples, and families through relationship challenges, grief, and life transitions. We explore patterns with curiosity, making space for what feels true and possible in your life.
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About me
(Español ↓) I'm a counsellor based in Amsterdam, specializing in relationships, grief, and family dynamics. My practice integrates, Transactional Analysis, Family Constellations and Gestalt therapy, informed by Internal Family Systems and Emotionally Focused Therapy as I continue training in these approaches. I also draw on creative methods from my background in visual and performing arts.
I work with individuals, couples, and families—primarily Spanish and English-speaking expatriates navigating relationship challenges, breakups, loss, and life transitions in a new culture. With couples, I focus on understanding patterns that keep you stuck and building capacity to support each other through difficult moments. My practice honors the messy complexity of being human—holding sadness with strength, confusion alongside presence.
Having experienced displacement, career changes, relationship endings, and family deaths myself, I understand what it means to rebuild life after loss. I create space where you can bring your whole story—the parts that make sense and the parts that don't.
My dog Sophie sometimes joins sessions—she knows when someone needs a quiet, grounding presence.
I offer a limited number of sliding-scale spots based on financial need or life circumstances—feel free to ask if this applies to you.
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Soy counsellor argentina, ahora viviendo en Amsterdam después de años en Barcelona. Trabajo principalmente con personas de habla hispana e inglesa transitando desafíos de relaciones, duelos y transiciones vitales lejos de casa.
Mi práctica integra Análisis Transaccional, Gestalt y terapia sistémica, informada por Sistemas Familiares Internos (IFS) y Terapia Enfocada en las Emociones (EFT) mientras continúo mi formación en estos enfoques. También incorporo métodos creativos—usando objetos, escritura, movimiento e improvisación junto a la conversación.
Habiendo experimentado migración, cambios de carrera, finales de relaciones y muertes familiares, entiendo lo que significa reconstruir la vida después de pérdidas importantes. Creo un espacio donde podés traer tu historia completa—las partes claras y las ininteligibles.
Trabajo en Amsterdam y online.
Mi perra Sophie a veces se une a las sesiones—ella sabe cuando alguien necesita una presencia tranquila.
Cuento con cupos limitados de tarifa reducida en función de la situación económica o circunstancias personales. Consulta la disponibilidad.
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Location:
Media Gallery
Approach
(Español ↓) How We'll Work Together I work from the understanding that our patterns of relating were learned in relationship and can be transformed in relationship. I draw primarily on Transactional Analysis, Gestalt therapy, systemic approaches, and Family Constellations. I'm actively incorporating Internal Family Systems and Emotionally Focused Therapy principles as I continue training in these modalities.
Working with Different Formats With Couples: I work with couples experiencing conflict and disconnection—whether you're caught in repetitive fights or feeling distant despite being together. I focus on interrupting negative cycles and understanding the attachment needs underneath both your conflicts and your withdrawal. We explore how family-of-origin patterns show up in your relationship and learn to distinguish between reacting to old wounds versus responding to present realities. You'll build awareness of triggers while developing capacity to support each other through difficult moments and explore what connection might look like for you.
With Individuals: We explore patterns that aren't working—the dynamics, attachment styles, and protective strategies that may have served you once but now create pain or distance in your relationships. You'll gain insight into what's showing up—whether in current relationships, past connections, or how you relate to yourself. This work creates space to clarify how you want to be in relationship and discover what else is possible.
With Families: I work with family members (mothers and daughters, siblings, parents and adult children) to address longstanding patterns, communication breakdowns, and the legacies passed through family systems. This work honors the complexity of family bonds—the love that exists alongside pain, the loyalty that coexists with necessary boundaries.
Creative and Embodied Methods Drawing from my background in visual arts, dance, and performance, I incorporate constellation work with objects, chair work and dialogues, movement and breathing techniques, written dialogues, and improvisation exercises. These methods allow you to experience and embody new patterns rather than just thinking about them.
Working with Grief and Loss I approach grief as a natural process rich with discovery potential. Whether processing death, relationship endings, career changes, or cultural displacement, I help you find meaning in transitions. Grief often reveals what matters most to us, becoming a clarifying path toward understanding your deepest values and needs.
Cultural Sensitivity Having navigated cultural transitions from Argentina to Barcelona to Amsterdam, I understand the unique challenges of rebuilding identity across cultures. I work affirmatively with LGBTQ+ individuals and couples, understanding that relationship patterns are shaped by both personal history and the experience of navigating identity in various contexts. I approach therapy with sensitivity to different values around family and emotional expression. For Spanish-speaking clients, I offer the comfort of working in your native language.
The Process I believe you are the expert on your own life. My role is to create safety and walk alongside you as you discover what works for your unique situation. We explore patterns with curiosity rather than judgment. Some people work with me for a few months addressing a specific challenge, others continue for longer working on deeper patterns.
We start with a free intro call. Most people attend weekly, transitioning to bi-weekly.
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Cómo Trabajamos Juntos Mi enfoque integra Análisis Transaccional, terapia Gestalt, enfoques sistémicos y Constelaciones Familiares. Estoy incorporando activamente principios de Sistemas Familiares Internos (IFS) y Terapia Enfocada en las Emociones (EFT) mientras continúo mi formación en estas modalidades.
Métodos Creativos y Corporales Incorporo enfoques que te involucran de forma integral: constelaciones con objetos, trabajo con sillas, técnicas de movimiento y respiración, diálogos escritos, y ejercicios de improvisación. Estos métodos permiten experimentar y encarnar nuevos patrones.
Trabajando con Duelo y Pérdida Abordo el duelo como un proceso natural rico en potencial de descubrimiento. Ya sea procesando muerte, finales de relaciones, cambios de carrera o migración cultural, te ayudo a encontrar sentido en las transiciones. El duelo revela lo que más nos importa.
Sensibilidad Cultural Habiendo navegado transiciones culturales desde Argentina a Barcelona a Amsterdam, entiendo los desafíos de reconstruir identidad a través de culturas. Trabajo con personas y parejas LGBTQ+ desde una mirada afirmativa y respetuosa de las diversidades.
El Proceso Creo que vos sos el experto en tu propia vida. Mi rol es crear seguridad y caminar a tu lado mientras descubrís lo que funciona. Exploramos patrones con curiosidad. Algunas personas vienen por unos meses, otras continúan por más tiempo.
Experience
2025-26 Assistant Teacher. Academie voor Coaching and Counselling. Year 1
2023-Present | Independent Counsellor and Coach. Private practice specializing in Family, Relationships, and Grief. Working with individuals and couples, primarily English and Spanish-speaking expatriates. Focus on relationship challenges, communication difficulties, identity crises following breakups or losses, and supporting individuals in creative fields. Receiving referrals from established therapeutic networks including family practice in Argentina. Currently developing workshops and group programs on relationship topics including breakups, dating, and loss, both independently and in collaboration with other professionals.
2019 | Therapeutic Arts Facilitator | TBS Den Dolder Led creative therapeutic program with vulnerable clients, guiding them through musical projects focused on envisioning their future. Collaborated with psychiatric facility to integrate artistic expression with therapeutic goals, witnessing significant client engagement and transformation.
Education
2025 Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT). Pesi. Robin Williams Blake, James Hawkins, Kathryn De Bruin (In progress)
2025 Frank Anderson’s Internal Family Systems Trauma Treatment Program. Pesi (In progress)
2024-2025 Academie voor Coaching and Counselling. Specialization in Family and relationships and Grief.
2024 Escuela Sistémica Argentina. Group Coordination.
2023 Academie voor Coaching and Counselling. Coaching and Counselling.
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Artist in Residency at Het Vijfde Seizoen. Collaboration with Fivoor, Den Dolder. NL.
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Casco, Utrecht. The Army of love training camp. Investigate different aspects of love – and its physical, emotional, conceptual and intellectual manifestations.
2012-2014. Sandberg Institute Fine Arts Masters Program.
2006-2011. Universitat de Barcelona. Fine Arts Bachelor.
2003-2006. Escola Massana. Sculpture Bachelor.
Services
Intro Call
Couples Session
Individual Session
Family Session
Insurances
