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Learn more about anger
Anger is a natural emotional response to threat, injustice, or frustration. For many people, however, anger becomes difficult to manage: too frequent, too intense, or expressed in ways that damage relationships and create regret. Therapy for anger is not about eliminating the emotion but about understanding what drives it and developing more control over how it is expressed. Difficulties with anger often have roots in stress, unresolved experiences, anxiety, or early patterns that have never been examined.
Many people live with anger difficulties for years before seeking help, often because they attribute their reactions to external circumstances rather than something that can change.
- You frequently feel irritated, resentful, or on edge, even in relatively minor situations
- Your anger escalates quickly and feels difficult to stop once it begins
- You say or do things when angry that you later regret
- People close to you have expressed concern or fear about your reactions
- Anger leaves you feeling exhausted, ashamed, or disconnected from others
- You use anger to avoid feeling other emotions, such as sadness, fear, or vulnerability
- You have tried to manage it yourself, without lasting change
Several approaches are effective for anger, depending on whether the focus is on immediate skills, emotional regulation, or deeper patterns.
- CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) CBT identifies the thoughts, interpretations, and triggers that feed anger and teaches practical skills for interrupting the escalation cycle before it takes hold.
- DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) DBT is particularly useful when anger is intense and difficult to regulate. It builds skills in distress tolerance, emotional regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness.
- Schema therapy Schema therapy explores early life experiences and core beliefs that may be driving disproportionate anger responses, working at a deeper level than skills-based approaches alone.
- Psychodynamic therapy Psychodynamic work examines the emotional and relational origins of anger, including earlier experiences that shaped how threat or injustice is perceived and responded to.
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